I am addicted to sex. When I'm not having it, then I'm pleasing myself. I have had this addiction for over 3 years and I cannot seem to beat it. Every time I quit a few weeks later it creeps right back into my life. The reason I don't know how to beat an addiction using LOA is because I don't know what to visualize, and what to affirm. Thanks

If you have nymphomania then I suggest seeking professional help. Perhaps there is a chemical imbalance, in which probably no amount of visualization is going to help.

 

Matt, what makes you think you have an addiction to sex? Maybe you are just a healthy young man, with a normal appetite. In today's world, many people are tired and overworked and stressed, and the average person has much less of a sex life then they should.  Did you grow up with a strict religion that places guilt around sex? This post sounds like you are just feeling guilt for something that is healthy and normal....sex is a wonderful expression and it should be enjoyed. There is no set rule for how often is normal. I wonder if there even is a such thing as nymphomania, I think it is just a term to induce guilt. If you are practicing safe sex, and you are enjoying yourself and making your partners happy, then just enjoy it. You are not addicted to sex, you are feeling unecesary guilt, that is my opinion. If you decide to talk to a therapist, as was suggested in the previous post, then do so for your feelings of guilt, which are interferring with your free sexual expression.

Lisa makes a great point, I was assuming that you were sure something was out of whack. I tend to lean toward a covert or buried reason behind your situation, if there really is something out of whack. Perhaps the trick is to dig down and figure out what is going on in your head.

Google may bring up interesting articles or discussions for you to read as well.

 

Peter, thank you for your comment that I brought up a good point!

I definitely have no guilts about sex. The reason I am addicted is because I orgasm on average 3/4 times per day and it tires me out and causes me not to function at my best. Every time I make a goal to cut down to twice a week, it only last for about 2 weeks before I'm back with my old habits. Thanks for the input though.  

Why only twice a week?

Well, are you addicted to sex or orgasm?  The two are not mutually exclusive.  Ok look, I dont know if you are or are not addicted, I would assume you are because it is something you do not want to do and its tiring you out etc.  So the thing to do is cut down a little at a time.

This is one of those things you dont want to cut out completely and thats why its difficult.  Its like smoking and drugs are not necessary for life, so you CAN cut those out, but people that overeat cant just stop eating, they actually have to learn to control themselves and just have as much as their body actually needs, not just what it wants.

The same for your problem.  So how much orgasm does a body actually need?  I bet you didnt know there was a number.  Well there is!  Its once a day for optimum health, with 2 a day now and then just fine.

You might want to just keep a journal.  Write down how you feel before and after and see if you can pinpoint what your trigger is.  Once you figure out the trigger, you avoid that unless its something normal, like if you feel the need to go do this upon arrival to work, well you cant quit working, you will have to just do something else when you arrive at work that will keep you from thinking about it or walk in to work through a different door, etc.

 

 

I have gotten over several addictions easily. The first addiction was to get over alcohol. I went to AA. it is a wonderful and effective  program wheere you get groups support, a definite plan which works if you work it. Then I got addicted to cigarettes. I used the same principles. I bypassed my conscious rational mind. I programmed my subconscious using a small book called "It Works" which I got for $3 dollars on  Amazon. Then I got over a food addiction using the 12 steps, EFT, and the "It Works" book.

The Movie "The Secret says just ask you don't know how it simply will be manifested. Good Luck Matt you will be able to reach a level of comfort that you desire. There are many paths to that end.

nice one lisa, i like your perspective.

matt, to change anything you need first to accept it and accept yourself.

addictions never have anything to do with what you're addicted to. those things usually aren't that great. they always have to do with something we lack. you drink because...you smoke because...you take drugs because...you feel addicted to sex because...

no one can truthfully answer they are ADDICTED to smoking because smoking is so great...or you drink because being wasted all the time is so amazing, etc. addictions come from a very different place like not knowing how to deal with "boredom", not feeling loved, not feeling happy in the now, not being fulfilled in a certain area of life, being scared to dance without booze, thinking friends won't think you're fun, etc etc etc

orgasms are lovely. sex is awesome. that's not your problem. take a moment and try to think what is causing this strong desire for relief and release or whatever it is you're compensating with an addiction. if you can't find a specific thing, then make your goal, to make yourself feel better. feel soo good that not even an orgasm could make you feel better.

please do not think sex or orgasms are bad or something you need to rid yourself of. what a shame that would be!!